Skip to main content

The "Add Friend" Default

 



How many friends do you have on Facebook? How many groups are you in? How many times does someone's profile pop up to click "Add Friend" with 1 or 2 mutual friends and you think, "Should I know them?"?

Mark Zuckerberg would not agree with me; but your 400, 800, or 1,700 friends on Facebook are not all your real friends. You may be very careful with whom you allow to view your life for safety or privacy purposes. But still, it's seemingly impossible to have that many friends. They may be family members, acquaintances, old school mates. They're not the people who know you inside and outside. They don't all "have your back." And, most importantly, not all of them will give you Biblical truth and spiritual edification. 

But do we often run to these online companions for comfort, reassurance, advice, and hope? Does the loose social media term "friend" really mean what it says?

A few questions I have to ask myself...

When I'm faced with a confusing situation, do I run to God's Word for help and reassurance or do I vent my frustrations on my mom Facebook group?

When I feel alone, fearful, or doubtful about myself, do I post a selfie and check for positive affirmations in the comment section or do I take time to remind myself who I am in Christ and His sufficiency?

When I want to escape a current reality or dilemma that I less than idea, do I run to social media to mindlessly scroll or do I run to my Savior who knows my every need?

Don't misunderstand my heart, I do love social media. It's a great way to reconnect with past friends, learn through challenging articles and information, and have some laughs with all these hilarious memes. But I know how often I'm mindlessly flipping my thumb then, all of a sudden, find part of my life in despair because I'm now comparing my current situation to someone I barely know. Maybe her house looks more clean or her kids smile better or her food looks yummy. And now my life is in disarray because I don't meet the same standard -  but I've never been to her house, eaten her cooking, or even know her kids' names. 

I hope you have good, godly friends you can turn to for love and advice. I hope your social media scrolling is light hearted. But most of all, I hope your best security in life, your comfort and peace, and your beauty in everything is Jesus Christ Himself. 

Some resources that I've recently found helpful on these topics are: 

Kelly Needham's Friend-ish

Ruth Chou Simons' Beholding & Becoming


Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Do you feel drained after Sunday?

  This should be talked about. Based on a recent Instagram poll I did, I think it’s safe to assume that many moms heading to church feel drained after a busy Sunday morning. Or maybe some even pass on church regularity because it’s been too overwhelming. Most of these tired moms probably have little ones, but I really don’t think the age of kids matters. Whether it’s a two year old running around or a fourteen year old who’s embarrassed by you, parenting can be physically and mentally exhausting.   I think I could easily insert the importance of nursery, giving moms a break, and volunteering in children’s ministry. I could probably stop there and call it good, get some likes, and chalk it up to a nice Facebook post.  However, I find it deeper than that.  We feel pressure to give our kids the perfect Sunday outfits, expect them to sit still (dreading inside because we know they won’t), and smile on the outside like the Holy Spirit has worked and we don’t even know the...
Post a Comment
Read more

Book Review: The Diary of Jasmine Grace

This post contains affiliate links, in  which I earn a small commission at no cost to you. So thank you for reading & shopping!  Human trafficking is not a problem "somewhere else." It's happening right where you are. You might see someone who is trafficked when you head to the grocery store or go to a local baseball game and never realize it.  Jasmine Grace found herself in desperate need for love and acceptance. She thought she found that through her "boyfriend," who ended up selling her for money. After years of prostituting herself, she covered the pain she never realized she had with drug abuse.  Thankfully, like many human trafficked victims, her story doesn't end with a gun shot or a drug overdose. Her story still continues in the saving grace of Jesus Christ. She recollects her different diary entries during her trafficking years from a fresh perspective as now a believer. She spends her life helping other women who are in the same situation.  I ...
Post a Comment
Read more